A little over 5years ago a friend told me in order to fully harness and appreciate each other in a relationship, one might needs to take a break and see things in full glare. This is the story of my time at home all alone last night.
Wifey had gone to visit my in-laws for the weekend and it will the first time in six months. We have rescheduled this appointment more than five times looking for a weekend that I will be away out of town for them to be able to make such trip.
I don't know I have been spoilt beyond comprehension yet I don't know this neither do I see it as a problem. I am the type that complains almost about everything yet does so less to help. I will want my meal prepared fresh, I want the house tidied up before I return from work, I want the boys to stop crying and whining for once, I want the kitchen so clean to enable have access to it, I want my bed well laid, and if possible I want to be put to that same bed. Such is my laziness and I didn't know any of this till last night.
So I got home late and I had to imagine the stress I will go through in trying to open the gate that wifey would have rush to open for me. As if that is even the end of my predicaments, then comes to microwaving the Eba she's prepared earlier in the day before she left with the boys. The entire space was littered with school clothes and flasks. Obviously they were such in a hurry to catch up with Kabir who has been waiting along the road for awhile.
I was so so mad to later discovered that I will repeat the same process with the soup, ensure that the doors were locked, all sockets were unplugged it turned off. This are literally what I didn't even know how they were being done in this house. Yet I complain so bitterly they weren't done and still want that same woman to come to bed so happy and fly. Woe unto my type of man I have been using my hustle to provide for the family for my laziness and tiredness.
I woke up around 4:30am to find out that I've been sleeping on the couch all night long and my phone was at 15%. I was so upset with myself, wifey would have woke me up to bed, helped me plug my phone and made sure she had one way or the other give me some medication that help me deal with hangover when I wake up in the morning. So I turned of the TV and moved to bed, I have an appointment for 8am but didn't forget to plug 🔌 my phone 📱 this time out.
Normally it takes me 15minutes from bed to when I will leave the house every morning when I have such early appointment. This time I woke up on the dot of 8 and wondered how to rush and tidy up and still probably make the meeting in an hour time. I would have wanted her to boil water to take my shower, ask her to make tea, help me find my socks, my wallet, my this and that while I only prepare for shower only. Obviously she's been the reason behind my 15minutes movements. Don't forget to Note that she'll be doing all this while she's still preparing the kids for school and yet another little toddler who doesn't like to be alone might be strapped at her back.
Before I could turn the gas and boil water alone I was already feeling so miserable to myself. It was obvious I can beat that time. I missed breakfast, I miss my phone being fully charged, I miss those boys with their whinnying, I miss my house being the same way I had always wanted it and yet I still miss the appointment. Now I've got dishes in the sink to wash, I've got the house still in disorder and exactly the way it was since yesterday and I feel so scared right now to go back and meet the house the same way.
I miss Rhoonie and wished I can cut short this trip, checked my phone and I had messages of my wife missing this devil of a man. She's been gone for just one night and she's been complaining of how she wished she could take me with her on this trip. I replied that such trip won't happen again except she wants me dead. My wife already knew I can't live by myself any longer. Imagine being reminded that I am suppose to eat before leaving the house and what I need to do for launch. Such kindness to a lazy bone like myself and an unapologetic Taurean that believes he's always gonna be right. She loves me just like that, just like that. Hiaaaan, this woman deserves better and I promise myself that I'll be better with helping henceforth.
Time and space might just be all we need to see and appreciate each others differences...
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