COMMUNICATION : KEYS TO A FUN FILLED RELATIONSHIP

When people see how happy you are in a relationship or marriage and they become so jealous that your happiness won't let them live easily. They'll start to make disparaging remarks about you and your affair. Some will say shits and stuffs behind you, others will be so bold to present their unpleasant state of mind in a pleasant way.

They go at lengths to make you feel so so bad, but never give into them. They will never have what you have. They will never get to experience your kind of joy and happiness. The last 12years of my life has been with the same chic I met standing under a tree(I don't know what type though) in 2007 and the rest today is history. I've heard so many stuffs that could have angered me or trigger my sadness.

Stuffs like, he's been used, na so the pussy sweet reach make dem rush go marry(even after dating her for 8years), he married you because you are close to making it(well its been 3years and I never blow reach that kind of blow you all imagined that made her marry me), she will never be there when things gets tough(well I lost my job two weeks after we got married), its because he speaks so well(but then I got admitted to Poly Ibadan where you will speak more Yoruba than English and all that accent gone). When things go so wrong, your wife will leave you and it is your mother and the rest of the family that will remain(as if she was never part of that family, so why make her feel like one when shes not actually one to everyone). Wetin man never hear ?

So about a week ago, last Sunday to be precise I was with some friends and I was busy trying to make a case for myself on why I never turned up with any babe since we all have been hanging out since mid 2018. After all I never claimed to be a saint, we all always talk about babes and secretly admiring some of them. While my goons turn up with different babes at different times, I am always busy looking for ways to make my own woman look what I admired in other people. Details of how Rhoonie keeps bending to please me will be discussed in some other posts in future.

I started by telling them that I needed help, after all what they wanted to hear is what I am about to serve them. Obviously I am under juju, Rhoonie has used me and I don't know why I can't find any babe I liked(truth is that my taste has always been so high and each time I see someone so close to my requirements of the type I could probably cheat with, even just to hang out beside me when wifey is busy with the boys. My boys, our boys, I'll raise the bar higher again and it will become a thing of the past and it won't happen after all). One of them sensing foul play from me quickly jumped in and said to me "its a lie, she's giving you all what you wanted and you are pleased so don't make this about being under juju or anything".

As much as how true that last paragraph is, I tried to also debunk it by giving another excuse to defend my story. But before I continue, isn't marriage all about trying so hard to please each other ? Is it not about discussing innovations that will make you want to be with each other ? Is it not about considering everything you can't tell her at home as sinful and cheat if you committed any of it ?

I made a slight digression by making it look like its about money. I stated that due to my meagre financial situation and the emerging bills that comes from running my small family of 5 that at some times increases to 7 because of 2 other people that comes and goes at their own will. I think its quiet silly of me not to consider the cost of having a night out with a babe of my choice and taste without trying to show my worth too. On an average, a night away can be equal to the cost of beverages for my two little boys alone for a whole month. Up against this point again is my dear friend claiming this is still also wrong, he said the only reason I am putting all these ahead of my own pleasure is because I am still pleased and satisfied with whatever I am getting from home. How true this is I wouldn't know until later in the week.

On the same table with me was one of my siblings another very close friend. The talk went into the late hours of that night before we all found our various ways home. Monday came so quickly since the majority of the night preceding that day was used trying to arrange myself for the long day ahead. Enroute one of my site that morning, thoughts of the day before and flashes of what our discussion centred on kept on flashing back like a pack of pictures playing on the large screen. But then comes the big question. Should things ever go wrong as they've always predicted, argued or talked about. What would be the worth of my financial sacrifice to get that which I thought I needed elsewhere ? Financial only ooo, not emotional, spiritual and not considering what could happen to that my body parts I treasured so so much my nakedness.

No one has ever seen me stack naked as sleep except my mother and my wife. And I dare to challenge anyone to come forward if this ain't true. Such boldness anyways. On a rough estimate, it was later discovered that at the very least, a quarter of the bills I am presently paying will be going to the other woman in question from whom I will probably be seeking that which is not lost. I thought of LEOnel,LEOnard,Mitchel, then Tunde,Sola,Dipo and Kabir. How many people that might probably be affected with the financial implications of my silly moves.

Irrespective of how we looked at it, my prudency is one thing that has always kept me under checks. It has been one of the thing that drives my emotions and a very good understanding of that has been the reason why my woman is my woman. I pray none of the people who made it about Rhoonie everytime never get to see me broke or witness any of my flaws. Their is this part of me that made me feel no one will ever understand how Eedrikxcs works and the entire concept of my behavior. That fear alone makes me never wanted to give it a try, because there will never be anyone I once hanged out with that is a female that won't testify about my plenty stories of no money. Hehehe. You can't take more than the people doing the majority of the work, you can't take what you didn't work for, you can't take what doesn't belong to you. Just drink beer, chop pepper soup and leave after all I won't demand for anything more than just company.

Back to the matter, last night was another evening. As we stepped out of the lounge we hanged out, my friend saw one other babe standing close to the gate. We exited through the gate and moved towards her direction. He said he had wanted to talk to the babe and I was like, must we always do this ? As for me, I won't "before I could complete that sentence" he said, you won't dare try it because you will tell your wife when you get home. I just laughed. When we parted ways, I first took it as an insult and wondered if this is their perspective of me and may be probably they've been talking about me all week long.

Well for the record, I tell her everything, I mean everything. From loving, friendship,relationship,companionship,sex,family,fashion,movies,music,businesses and many more. And lest I forget, we always gossip about y'all. So if their anything you don't want her to hear,just think twice before you tell me because she has a high chance of been aware than not. Fact that she has never behaved what she's been hearing for years has made her hear more. The babe too like gossip and its been ride to die with you babe.

I feel bold to say to you today, that one babe is more than enough. Lest I forget she just read this too and have a wonderful week ahead. You can pass on if you like but it should be after you must have dropped your comments.

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Good morning everyone, 

 
Yaas, finally I get to write the very first blog post of the new year. Lest I forget, Happy new year to all our readers and critics we wish you all the best of 2019. Today is 1st day of the month of February and it’s very difficult to believe we are already in the second month. This is obviously the fastest of January I have witnessed since I was born, because there is this general notion that this month is always slow but this time around I wonder what actually changed. 

But why is that so? last December, I drew up a list of my top priority expenses in January and just then I discovered that there is nothing so special about any month than to just observe the public holiday only and get back to work the next day to make some money to cater for the bills. Naturally our people will suspend business from 24th and some of them may not return until the Sunday that preceded the day kids resumes back at school. This might fall within 4th, 5th and 6th of the January most of the times and by the time you calculate the number of days’ businesses and stores has been under locks and keys you’ll realize some would have spent an average of 10 days of expenses without any income. 

To an average civil servant who had received a 13th month pay as a bonus, they quickly forget that the January salary will arrive so late due some factors won’t have the time to explain this morning as soon as they enter the December mode. December mode; December mode; They will forget that their rent expires in that same month, the second term of the new school session starts in January with lots of them still having outstanding school fees bills to clear, most of the food items in the house would have been cleared (lol), outstanding textbooks and other stuffs. 

So what changed? Just like myself, our people have started to wake up to responsibilities of setting priorities and making a scale of preference. I had deposited an advance tuition of the new term on the last day of the previous term before the holiday arrived. I went around town and it was shocking to discover that most stores were open for half days and some were for all day on 24th and 25th. Fast forward to 31th, the new year eve. Some business owners used the opportunity of the long night to extent their opening hours and make more money. Where I come from, that tailor shop will open all night to meet up with deliveries of cloths for people, that barber shop down the street is always there. People will want to have new hair cut into new year. Don’t bother to talk about the churches and the mosques(lol), that night is there harvest night. The beer joint is no-no; it is a carnival night. In 2017, that pharmacist shop will be closed, save goes to confectionaries, to the woman selling recharge voucher, to the dude selling cloths at a small kiosk etc. But 2018 was surprised that in places where the owner of the store is not there to attend to you, they’ll have someone in place to attend to your needs. 

To my surprise, my workers were so reluctant to take the new year holidays off. They made arguments such as, no be who get money to celebrate their reason holiday, why would anyone wants to stay at home on a Tuesday morning why not close earlier than normal days than to have an entire shut down. We got everything we might need ahead of time thinking the cement store might not open as well. Guess what When I passed that store on the early hours of the new year, someone sat at the entrance shouting “Happy New Happy New Year Engineer”. Isn’t it a beautiful year already. 

 
Did we also notice that money is not in circulation as it used to be in every January of an election year?  Hehehehehehehe, everyone is trying to be very careful this time around. People have bought votes and induced voters in the past and still end up on the losing sides. Things are really really changing in our dear country, but the first is that our people are getting more serious with their businesses and finances free cash is not flying around like it used to be or should we say it has reduced so part of my contingency plans this year is to explore our religion diversity to my gain this new year. I won’t allow any public holiday to shut down my business except I choose to give myself break. Muslims among my workers must turn up for work on good Friday, Easter Monday, Xmas and Boxing day. Christian are expected to turn up on Eid-il-molud,2 days of eid-il-fitri and 2 days of eil-il-ahd and gain 9 more days for myself. 

  I wish us all a fruitful New year